5 Ideas to Find Holiday Joy, even in times of Loneliness

The holiday season is approaching, and with it comes a tide of emotions, some joyous and others more complex. As I sit down to share this article, I'm reminded of the intricacies of loneliness, a feeling that seems to intensify, especially during this festive time. This topic is personal and challenging for me to discuss, but it's crucial, considering how loneliness can cast a shadow over our holiday experience.

Let me share a bit more of my story. Growing up in a divorced family meant my holidays were divided between my dad and mom. While the notion of double the presents might sound appealing, for me, it left a sense of being torn between two families, unsure of where I truly belonged. And this feeling stayed with me throughout my childhood into adulthood.

Then, when I moved to Seattle, I found myself far from my family. Traveling during the holidays wasn't always practical, so I'd make visits at other times throughout the year. In a city without my family, I embarked on the journey of building my community. Over the years, as my community evolved, so did how I spent the holidays. The pandemic further altered my holiday landscape, and I found myself spending those special times alone, a situation that, surprisingly, became somewhat familiar. Yet, even now, as the holidays approach, there's a tinge of dread at the prospect of solitude.

Instead of suppressing these emotions, let's commit to acknowledging and embracing them—each one, no matter how complex. By doing so, we can avoid letting them overshadow the small joys that the holiday season can still offer, even if we find ourselves alone.

Now, let's explore 5 holiday-themed ideas to infuse warmth and joy into the season, whether you're alone or with others:

1. Deck the Halls for Yourself: Create a cozy atmosphere at home by purchasing a modest Charlie Brown Christmas tree, adding some ornaments, lighting a candle, and draping a furry throw blanket on the couch.

2. Discover Christmas Magic: Embark on a Christmas decoration hunt, exploring neighborhoods with the most dazzling holiday lights. Let the festive displays ignite the spirit of the season.

3. Create Special Moments: Dedicate themed days to cherished holiday activities—indulge in Christmas movies and delicious snacks, immerse yourself in holiday music, and perhaps even bake treats to warm up your space.

4. Unleash your inner child: If you're in an area with snow, unleash your inner child and have some fun in the snow. Building a snowman or making snow angels can be surprisingly therapeutic.

5. Treat Yourself: Pamper yourself with a do-it-at-home spa day or engage in activities that bring you moments of joy. Whether it's reading a book, listening to your favorite music, or indulging in a hobby, prioritize self-care.

Remember, it's crucial to be kind to yourself and take the time to nurture your spirit during the holiday season. While loneliness may linger, so can happiness, even when spending the holidays by yourself.

As we navigate the complexities of this season, let's remember that we're not alone in our emotions. Feel free to share your thoughts or your favorite holiday traditions in the comments below or email info@mixingle.com. Together, we can find solace and connection, even in moments of solitude.